December 03, 2005
thing women love but men hate
In case you haven't figured it out, men and women have
ways of looking at the world. This can often lead to a heck
of a lot of
frustration on the part of guys because they just can't
Above all else, though, there's one thing that men just
stand, but women love--and when you fully grasp it, you'll
be able to
understand how women see the world, and be able to create
with any woman you choose, literally on demand.
Here it is: uncertainty. Think about that for a minute.
As men, we
can't stand uncertainty. We hate wondering if she "likes
us," we just
want to know. We hate wondering if we're going to "get
lucky," we just
want to know. We hate waiting for her to call, we'd just
prefer her to
call when we want her to.
So what do we do? We presume that, because we don't like
uncertainty, women don't either. And that's where the
Why? Because women LOVE uncertainty. It creates attraction
for them. So
when you tell her you "like her" all the uncertainty goes
away, and the
attraction dissipates. If you call her all the time, it
uncertainty, and the attraction.
If you pick and read any romance novel, you'll see it's
uncertainty, even right up to the end. These are written by
women, and provide an "uncertainty fix."
How is this useful to us? Pretty simple, actually.
worrying about telling her you like her, make her wonder if
her. Instead of calling her all the time, call her
her in a way that makes her think you're attracted to her...
suddenly, only to start again when she least expects this.
This does two things: it creates uncertainty for her, and
the whiney voice in your head that keeps asking, "does she
Because you're the one creating uncertainty, you're the one
of the interaction, the one defining authority, which is
crave (see http://www.effortlesscommunication.com/enter.htm
for more details on how to do this).
And when you know how to give a woman what she craves,
suddenly have a different problem than you have now... "so
and so little time," as the old Keel song goes.
On with the fun....